I came across a word I had never heard before.
Apanthropy.
The pronunciation is like this:
(ap-AN-thruh-pee)
Yes, it sounds like “A pan through pee.”
But it doesn’t mean to have a pan to pee in.
No. Instead, it means “A desire to be away from people; a love of solitude.”
Well. Looky what I found.
My middle name.
I know, I know. “Oh, Polly. Don’t be that way.”
But the truth of the matter is that I am an introvert in a big way.
And I found out there are different “types” of us.
Yes, there are different types of introverts, and they can vary based on their preferences, behaviors, and how they recharge their energy. Here are some common classifications:
Social Introverts: They enjoy socializing but prefer smaller gatherings over large crowds. They might be seen as shy or reserved but still appreciate meaningful interactions.
Thinking Introverts: These individuals tend to be deep thinkers and often prefer to spend time alone with their thoughts. They enjoy solitary activities like reading or writing and may feel overwhelmed in social situations.
Anxious Introverts: This type experiences social anxiety and may find social interactions particularly challenging. They often avoid social situations due to fear or discomfort.
Restrained Introverts: They take their time to warm up in social situations and may appear reserved initially. Once they feel comfortable, they can be quite engaging and expressive.
Creative Introverts: These individuals often thrive in solitary creative pursuits. They may prefer to express themselves through art, writing, or other creative outlets rather than through social interaction.
I would put myself in a combination of the thinking, anxious, and creative introvert.
But. I will tell you this. It isn’t easy being an introvert, as I feel like we are looked down upon in society.
I mean it.
Most extroverts think there is something “wrong” with the introvert because they don’t want to “go” and “do.”
In many cultures, including ours, extroverted traits are often considered more socially acceptable and even desirable compared to introverted traits.
Many societies celebrate the things associated with extroversion, such as being outgoing, sociable, and assertive. These qualities are often linked to leadership and success. Extroverts tend to thrive in social situations, which can make them more visible and approachable. Their energy can draw people in, making it easier for them to build relationships. Popular media often portrays extroverted characters as the protagonists, showcasing their charisma and social prowess. This representation can influence societal perceptions of what is considered “normal” or “ideal.”
Then, it drifts over into work and school. In professional settings, extroverts may be seen as better team players or more suitable for roles that require networking, collaboration, and public speaking. This can lead to greater opportunities for advancement. Schools often favor group activities, presentations, and participation, which can place introverted students at a disadvantage, reinforcing the idea that being extroverted is preferable.
The deck is basically stacked.
And the anxiety builds every time we are asked to rub elbows, no matter with whom or when.
So. I’m writing today because I’m glad I found a word. Apanthropy.
It makes me feel like I’m not alone in the fact that I like to be alone.
And don’t get me wrong. I love people. I do. I have many wonderful people in my life. And I am grateful for them.
But I cherish, cherish, my time alone.
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“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” — Michel de Montaigne
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“Solitude is the place of purification.” — Martin Buber
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“Being alone is not the same as being lonely.” — Eleanor Rigby
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A pan. Through pee.
