Habits By Linda Stowe
When I think about changing a habit, I have to begin by admitting how usual it feels. Habits settle into the grooves of daily life so deeply they might as well be etched into my skull. I don’t decide each morning to drop my clothes on the floor or to stack the mail unopened; my body simply performs the familiar ritual. So the first factor to consider is awareness. What cue sets the habit in motion? Is it the time of day, the room I’m in, the emotion I’m feeling? Before I can change the action, I have to notice the pattern without judging it.
The second consideration is roadblocks. If I want to open and sort mail as soon as it arrives, I need a clear space and a small wastebasket nearby. If I want clothes in the hamper, the hamper must be within arm’s reach of the shower. Good intentions alone won’t change a bad habit; the environment has to make the new behavior easier than the old one. It also helps to be specific about the replacement action. “Be more organized” is too vague. Put the clothes in the hamper or open the mail when it arrives are specific.
Finally, I have to adjust my expectations about time and failure. A habit that feels embedded in bone will not dissolve overnight. There will be days when the old routine reasserts itself, and that doesn’t mean the effort is pointless. Change happens through repetition, not resolve. The goal is not to win a battle of willpower but to retrain the mind and body until the new behavior feels just as usual as the old one once did.
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Lately, I have been reevaluating my daily routines. I’ve changed a couple of things completely to see if it makes my life better or worse. I suppose that part has been the “awareness” step for me.
You see. I thrive on a structured life. I need my routines. Or so I think. It is a big part of my OCD.
But for most of us, habits are fascinating because they shape much of our lives, often without us noticing.
Researchers estimate that a significant portion of our daily behavior is habitual rather than the result of conscious decision-making.
Apparently, habits form because the brain likes efficiency. Once a behavior becomes routine, the brain can perform it with less mental effort. And this frees our attention for other tasks.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no universal number of days required to form a habit. Some habits may take a few weeks, while others can take several months to become automatic. And as far as “breaking” old habits? That, too, is anyone’s guess.
I think the biggest thing is being aware. There are good habits and bad habits. And only we can decide what needs to be a part of us, and what doesn’t.
